Davren: Number 2 are gaskets, i have only 1 gasket mounted between that pipe and the EGR, and i don't know where to put it
Without the swirl plate or blanking plate fitted, there are only 2 surfaces to seal so only 1 gasket it used between the EGR and pipe. When a plate is fitted there are 4 surfaces to seal (EGR to plate and pipe to plate) so 2 gaskets are required.
New gaskets have a raised edge around the central hole which flattens when fitted, so theoretically they should only be used once meaning you would need to buy 2 new ones. However, when I fitted my swirl plate about 2 years ago, I didn't fit any gaskets and it has never leaked.
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