Ok here we go........
1. On your steering wheel press the "phone" button
2. Scroll through the options until you get to "settings" then press the "phone" button again.
3. Scroll through to "pairing" and press the "phone" button again
3. The nice B&M lady will say "User pairing in progress" then someting like "search for the device on your phone and insert the code" you will see on the car steering wheel (its a 4 digit number)
4. Search for the device (ie Blue&Me) on your Iphone (obviously with Bluetooth enabled) and then select it,you will then be required to add the afor mentioned code and job done,the nice B&M lady will then ask do you want to download the contents of your phonebook to the system,just say "Yes" and wait for a few minutes and you will be sorted.
Let us know if you get this to work.